- Schedule one purely joyful activity each week. Think of an activity—dancing, reading, playing guitar—that you haven’t done for a long time and that brings you instant happiness. Put it in your datebook as a nonnegotiable appointment with yourself, and watch the quality of your life transform.
- you’re is passionate about. Find which activities, people, or things make you act with the most enthusiasm and passion. This will help you feel more independent and competent in your daily life. Avoid simply acting on an impulse. Instead, give some thought to what you’re already motivated by and learn to use these abilities.For example, you may realize that you’re passionate about teaching others. Use this knowledge to look for opportunities to use that enthusiasm. You may tutor classmates, teach in a school, or go to school to become an educator.
- Break the habit of total self-reliance. Insisting on doing everything yourself burdens you and prevents others from feeling valuable and needed. Delegate more at home and at work, and free your time for things you love and excel at.
- what makes you happy. Start by making a list of as many happy situations you can remember. Write down as many details regarding the events as you can remember. A list will help you figure out what it was about these situations that made you happy or energetic. You may notice that you were with the same few people. Or, maybe you found that you enjoy figuring out challenges. Since different things make different people happy, it’s important that you know what you enjoy.For example, your list might have something like playing video games, playing the drums, or painting. This might lead you to realize that you’re happiest when you’re working with your hands
- Capture all your to-dos in one place. People who haphazardly write lists on stray notepads, Post-its, and backs of envelopes waste time wondering what to do next and worrying that they’re forgetting something. Choose only one tool (planner, Palm, notebook) to track everything you need to do, and prioritize from the top down. Start every morning with the most important item, not the many small, easy tasks. You can always squeeze the little things into the gaps. Conquering the big to-dos gives meaning to your day.
- Look opportunities to foster your talents and interests. Once you know what makes you passionate and happy, look for jobs or volunteer opportunities. For example, if you realize you’ve always enjoyed talking to your grandparents, you might try to find work with an organization that assists the elderly in some capacity. Or, if you’re interested in video games, you could look into becoming a computer programmer or video game designer.
- Look for opportunities that will make you happy in the long term. Ask yourself where you see yourself in five or ten years. Then, consider whether job or volunteer offers fit into that picture.
- Shorten your workday by 30 minutes. I promise you’ll get more done than if you put in your usual nine to ten hours. That’s because committing to leaving earlier gives you a deadline and forces you to eliminate the little time wasters (silly interruptions, procrastination, perfectionism) that eat up your day.
Signs You Need To Have A Life
1. You sleep in a bed with your laptop and a pile of books and magazines. Nothing says “I’m not getting laid as much as I’d like” than a bunch of crap taking the place of where another human body should be. “Um, this area is reserved for my celibacy. Please stay away. Thank you…”
2. When someone asks you what you’ve been up to, you blank out and try to remember if anything noteworthy has occurred in the last, oh I don’t know, six months. You think real hard and then come up with nothing. “I don’t do anything fun,” you tell them sheepishly. “Nothing’s changed. I’m sorry. I wish I had something exciting to tell you…”
3. Your idea of a fun time is ignoring people’s phone calls and going on the internet instead. “I wonder if I can find a life on this $1,500 box I bought at the store…”
4. The highlight of your day is a full DVR of unwatched TV shows and takeout food. You tell people that it doesn’t take much to make you happy but you neglect to mention that it’s because not much is going on in your life.
5. Sometimes you earnestly wonder if you have any friends and if so, where the fuck did they go? You scan your brain for people to hang out with and can’t think of any. WTF? You know you had some somewhere. Did you leave them all behind when you graduated college? Hon? Where art thou?
6. Your body behaves like it’s a teenage virgin again and that’s because it basically is. If a penis came running towards it, your body’s orifices would start weeping and listening to Coldplay.
7. You feel accomplished when you show up to your best friend’s birthday party. “Seriously, someone give me a fucking medal.”
8. You still spend entire days in bed except this time you don’t talk about it because it’s embarrassing and because we live in a culture that prides being busy. It’s taboo to even say, “I have no plans.” You must make something up when someone asks you and then lie about them being cancelled so now you’re available to hang out.
9. You constantly feel pangs of envy when looking at people’s Instagrams and Twitter feeds. Is everyone in the world having more fun than you are? Answer: No, they’re just better at faking it.
10. You can’t remember the last time you did something that scared you or put yourself there so you could get hurt. You have a protective shell so people can’t cause you pain anymore. You’re realizing, however, that by protecting yourself from hurt, you’re also closing yourself off to love. The two go hand in hand obviously. Can’t have the ecstasy without the agony.
“Peace of mind is not the absence of conflict from life, but the ability to cope with it.”
Like many people, I lived my life for a lot of years failing to understand inner peace is a choice. I am not sure what I thought. Perhaps I didn’t believe anyone could feel a lasting peace inside. I did know that my own feelings of peace were always transitory.
There were many ups and downs in my life, too many claims on my time and too many difficult situations to be dealt with. I think I actually believed inner peace could only be achieved by monks and saints, or anyone living a reclusive life who didn’t have to deal with everyday struggles.